Jealousy has the power of destruction and creation. I realized that it is very important to learn how to manage and control this feeling. Jealousy is able to destroy relationships, or can add to them a draft. The main thing is to find the middle ground in the manifestation of this feeling.

“A little jealousy is a good seasoning for ardent love”

This is a quote from one of the novels Ann and Serge Golon about Angelica. And that is true. Jealousy, in small quantities adds a light to a relationship. For example, my husband and I have been living together for more than ten years and sometimes, not often, but there are bursts of jealousy either to me, then I have. It seems to me that earlier, I was more jealous than now.

And not because over the years I love him less. There was just some self -confidence and in our feelings, and maybe even wisdom. If we could fight before, having been jealous, now this is not happening. Now we express our jealousy more calmly or even in a joking form. Although there are also violent emotions.

Once, I was jealous of an employee. We then recently got married. She called him very often, they talked on duty. He helped her write a thesis. There was nothing like that in their conversations, but it hurt me. Sometimes, I was joking at him something about her. But he also joked.

But soon, I realized that jealousy is corroding me and tormenting me. At the same time, my husband and I had a great relationship. Nothing changed in them for the worse. And I realized that the problem is in me and I need to change my attitude. The last straw was his words that I was wrapping myself in vain, that he loves me, he married me and he needs no other.

For myself, I decided:

That he can communicate, with whom he wants and this does not mean that he likes the girl and the road

Not to show your jealousy too turbulent

In the situation, find contact with who you are jealous.

Somehow this girl called when her husband was not at home. I told her this, introduced myself myself. Asked how she was working with work when protection? In general, we chatted sweetly. Later they still talked, but after this conversation, everything has changed in me. Jealousy disappeared somewhere and stopped tormenting me.

“There is rude jealousy – when you do not trust the one you love; There is sophisticated jealousy – when you do not trust yourself “. Filippo Pananti

My husband is always upset by my jealousy, offends. After all, when you are jealous, it turns out that you do not trust a person. And relationships are built precisely on trust. Now occasionally we have bursts of jealousy, but they do not destroy. They do not torment us every second, do not torment the soul.

Of course, sometimes, a certain situation finds us by surprise and then we cannot immediately react as it should, correctly. But most importantly, you need not to say excess to each other so that you can always rectify the situation.